CNN is conducting a survey asking if the S Carolina Governer should resign over his affair. I wonder where this idea came from that who you have sex with determines your ability to function in your job. I mean unless you are a prostitute the two things seem pretty unrelated.
I know there’s this hope that people have that marriage is a sacred vow and that two people can live together happily for decades and decades. It’s just not panning out that way. I mean when you look at the statistics there’s infidelity in an estimated 80% of marriages….80%. That is full on failure of an institution. Imagine a school where 80% of all students failed or an organization where 80% of employees failed to do their jobs. The doors would be closed.
There is value in marriage. Kids, they just need two parents. Creating a home requires two people at least. But to have this completely unrealistic expectation that people are 2gether4ever doesn’t account for how dynamic we are as human beings. We do change over time. If you are very very lucky you can find someone who will change with you. But what if you can’t?
In Elizabethan times it was considered foolish to marry for love. Marriage was viewed as a function of life rather than a sacred union. Maybe a little pragmatism is in order for us as well. It seems to me in this country we build up so much hope around “finding the perfect mate” and having a great love that it’s almost impossible for the actual day to day of living with someone to meet the expectation. If we took off the rose colored glasses around relationships then we might all get along better over distance.
As to whether or not Sanford should resign, well he did vote to impeach Bill Clinton over the Monica Lewinsky hoohaw. Nothing is quite as much fun as having your moral high ground come back around to bite you in the bum.
